I have written in the past about my difficult co-worker who needs constant affirmation. If he doesn’t get it, he lashes out. He thrives on manipulation and being in control, and he never backs off. It seems that he’s always got an agenda. I don’t trust him, and I have to keep him at an arm’s length at all times.
I’m the type of person who just wants to get my job done and I don’t need constant human interaction to get through my day. I do my best to avoid him because I actually enjoy being productive and seeing something accomplished. I don’t think he ever accomplishes anything except creating confusion.
He has been trying to arrange a get-together with our wives for about the last two years. He has suggested camping, hiking and biking because he knows I’m into all those things. This week he suggested we take our wives hiking and have a picnic at a trail near my house. I told him we have plans, as I always do. I fear he may drop by my house with his wife after their hike, like he’s done in the past. He never seems to give up.
I keep making excuses and often wonder if it wouldn’t be best to just be blunt and tell him that we aren’t interested. However, I must have a good working relationship with this guy, and don’t want to alienate him entirely. Then my job would be hell, as I know how vindictive he can be.
I’m aware that most people have issues co-workers. I’m probably handling it the right way. I’m just venting, I know there’s no real solution to this problem.